3 years ago
Went here to deliver my first kid. Spark notes ver...
Went here to deliver my first kid. Spark notes version: The midwives and nurses during the delivery were amazing! Recovery was made miserable by the nurse named Amy. If Amy is assigned to you as your nurse, demand a new nurse. Do NOT put up with her crap because she is TERRIBLE!
Long version: The midwives and nurses during labor and delivery made 32 hours of labor bearable. The midwife who actually delivered m kid, Laren, was wonderful and I'm so glad she was the midwife to deliver my little girl. She did a great job of telling me when to push (because I had an epidural and couldn't feel anything) and an amazing job of stretching me between contractions so that I only tore a little bit instead of needing an episiotomy or tearing my perineum.
Things went downhill after delivery the next day. The nurse that was assigned to me for the day shift, Amy, on the first day at the hospital after my kid was born was incredibly inconsiderate. She came in around 6am talking at the top of her lungs while my baby and husband were asleep after a long night of being labor and delivery, and didn't bother to lower her voice when she saw that they were sleeping. Then my family came to visit later in the day--my parents, my grandparents, and my two siblings--and Amy came in with them all present and said, "I have bad news about your baby" without asking for the rest of the family to step out, or asking for a moment, or introducing herself or anything. She just walked in and said, "I have bad news about your baby." Of course everyone's minds go to the worst thought imaginable with that kind of intro. What was the bad news? My baby's blood sugar levels were 4 points below where they would like them to be. We all sighed in relief and told her that wasn't bad news, but she insisted it was the worst thing that could happen. Instead of offering us options as to what to do about the blood sugar, she said the only thing we could do was to use donor milk because I wasn't producing enough food for my baby at the time.
Things only got worse from there.
I had diarrhea starting the day before going into labor and going through my entire hospital stay, and hemorrhoids on top of that. I had no control over my bowels. Second day at the hospital, I ended up having an accident while in bed, and was out of the hospital pads they provide you with, so I rang the nurses' station to ask for another pad so that I could change myself. The nurse at the station forgot to take me off of speaker right away and I heard her say, "Amy, isn't that your patient?" and Amy's response of "Yeah, I'll get around to it." I waited 20 minutes sitting in my own filth for her to "get around to it." I realize the nurses all have a handful with all their patients, but to wait for 20 minutes when she knew about both my hemorrhoids and my diarrhea is unacceptable. I changed, spent 10 minutes in the bathroom crying because it was so painful, came out and stood around crying because it hurt too much to sit down. She came in and asked why I was so upset, then insisted that I never told her about my diarrhea and eventually ran out of excuses and had to admit that she was in the wrong.
She would also come in throughout the day and tell me that my sessions with the lactation specialist went "terribly" and that my baby would never survive if I couldn't make milk for her, and continued to harass me about how I wasn't doing enough for my baby. After putting up with her for a day and a half, I finally had enough and talked to the charge nurse to insist that a different nurse be assigned to me.
The rest of the stay after Amy was fired from being my nurse was considerably enjoyable, and I was able to start producing enough food for my baby once I was no longer stressed out because I was being harassed constantly about how I wasn't doing my part.
Moral of the story: If Amy is assigned to you after you deliver your kid, demand a different nurse. Do not put up with her crap at all.