I've been to Bull Run Winery since it opened, work...

I've been to Bull Run Winery since it opened, worked for Vint Hill and Pearmund Cellars which used to be affiliated with Bull Run, and have been to 50+ wineries in the state of Virginia and have never felt so uncomfortable that I had to leave. First, I've never been greeted by a security guard before asking what was in my water bottle. Then once we got inside I'm greeted again by a host asking if I have outside food or drink, which we didn't bring inside because of the signs we saw. He then asked if I was bringing a group and had to approve of me pushing two tables together. At this point I feel like I'm about to get on an airplane after being grilled by TSA practically.
We see people on the closed in porch with outside food, so we ask the host if were allowed to have food on the porch and he says yes, only because it's cold out, so my dad and husband go grab the food. I notice the security guard stopping them at the entrance and immediately get the host because I'm afraid the security guard doesn't know what the host just told me about outside food being allowed on the porch today. On my way out I overhear the security guard telling my dad no "hard" coolers are allowed in, even after being inspected like our other "soft" coolers because people will hide hard liquor in the bottom of them (only hard coolers, mind you, not soft... Ok). So at this point we decide we're leaving because of the amount of hassle we've been through in the first 10 minutes here. The worst part is we have my grandma with us and she's handicapped, so we finally had her seated and ready to enjoy the day and we had to leave.

Now I'm not saying they told us to leave. We decided to on our own. And the manager said she would let us bring in our cooler, empty it, and then we'd have to take it back. I get it, I'm a teacher, you let one person bring in their cooler, then others are going to raise Cain that they're not allowed. They're just keeping to their rules, I understand. But the overall spirit and experience we felt from the moment we arrived was stressful and unwelcoming because of the excessive rules and questions we had to answer on our way in. There are plenty wineries in the area that provide a relaxing atmosphere that we will go to from now on that are much more affordable too, if I might add.