3 years ago
Excuse my long rant but this is partially to warn ...
Excuse my long rant but this is partially to warn potential members as well as vent about a very negative experience. The ICC has great locations and great amenities and can be an awesome combination of fun, education, and friendships. So don t let a handful of mean house members ruin it for you and choose the house you move into carefully!
I lived in the ICC from Fall 2005 to May 2007 and had a lot of fun. It was a laid-back, fun and accepting environment. Individuality was respected.
However this May 2014 the experience was quite different. It was not laid-back at all! I now see how flawed of an organization the ICC can be when people abuse their power. After only 5-6 weeks in Truth House at 1507 Washtenaw the house decided to have a meeting to kick me out for very distorted definitions of "stalking" and "sexual harassment." Trust me nothing sexually degrading was ever said. And the stalking part clearly makes no sense. Plus I really made an effort to get along with everybody and respect their boundaries and correct any very minor mistakes I was told I was making (basically my main mistake was interacting with said individuals at all to begin with since they only wanted to harass me and guilt trip me for invented problems no matter what I said/did).
It was a very immature and disrespectful environment for me.
They saw somebody with problems and weaknesses, as somebody new in the house without any friendships or alliances - and exploited my vulnerability and used it as an opportunity to bash me, perhaps, to feel superior and validate themselves. It was a classic case of bullying.
As much as it helps me to write down my experiences and to express how unfair it was and how very wronged I felt, I want future ICC members to be careful which house they choose. A liberal non-profit organization like the ICC has members with very strong, admirable values such as veganism and feminism. But in some cases good intentions cross the line into what you might call political correctness. This is where you can get kicked out of the ICC based merely on perceptions, rumors and opinions, or if a group of house members judge you a certain way or decide they dislike you.
If your house decides they dislike you they can kick you out of the entire ICC instead of doing the civil thing of allowing a second chance and having a person find a house that fits their personality type and interests. It s really unfortunate that such a large organization with lots of money and property would mismanage these resources and expel members that have potential to be very excellent members of the ICC, Ann Arbor, and larger academic-activist-philanthropic community. One rogue house should not be allowed to punish one person to such an extreme degree. What special training or life experience would many young college students have in order to judge one person s worthiness and ability to successfully live with hundreds of other people in the ICC s other 15 houses?
What really bothers me is the disregard Truth House had for my past 2 successful years in the ICC when I was younger. With the assumption that with age and life experience a person is wiser and more mature - It s obvious to me I am able to get along with people just as well or better than I was 2006. Beware of illegitimate authority and be sure house members are kind, fair, mature people before moving in.
Members of the ICC deserve respect and people should only be expelled for real, serious problems. That s a part of learning tolerance and diversity. I have a problem with people disrupting my life and housing options, manipulating me, and overall just treating me bad. My life and experiences are not a game to be played and toyed with. I demand respect!