Yasmin Asset

Review of Body & Soul Charity

In my history of services I have encountered (I gr...

In my history of services I have encountered (I grew up in care so it was a lot) I have never and probably will never again encounter what I did when I went to Body & Soul charity and the experience I had with them. To cut a long story short there will be a lot left out so please bare that in mind. I was so hopeful when I found this place, in fact I cried when I did. To be able to find a service within the U.K to look AT THE TRAUMA you have been through is very hard, it it almost all about dealing with present behavior those individuals are displaying and not the trauma that was inflicted on them. This place advertises that YOU WILL LOOK at the trauma inflicted on you. This is untrue. I had an assessment with someone called Daryl who told me it was not important for him to know my seconded name but it was for me to know his, because once I google him - to which i interrupted and said what I will see all these amazing things about you? I am not here for you, I am here for me. He also did not say anything to me when collecting me from reception and instead insisted on small talk whilst going up the stairs to our assessment room, which made me very uncomfortable. When I had concerns about the program they was referring me onto (which Daryl runs) I was told to take it up with Daryl at my second assessment as my first assessment was with someone else. Yet, when I did this, the programme facilitator was defensive rather then inclusive of my concerns that this was just another "coping with current behavior" thing and he was extremely combative with me. He also kept asking me if I wanted to leave - and this is supposed to be a place for traumatized people?!? This all came out of me just saying I want to deal with my trauma not current behaviour. I was then told by Daryl I will kill myself if I looked at my trauma. He then casually took out a piece of paper and read everything off casually in a bullet point way about my current struggles. Nice. After about the 10th time of him asking me if I wanted to leave and saying "are we done here?" I got up and walked out. I was very upset and was crying. Someone in the main office asked me how it went on the way out of the building to which i turned to her and said loudly you guys are what makes people like me worse you said I can look at my trauma - to then i was interrupted by Daryl trying to usher me out the building using his body, speaking over me and telling me to leave. I continued answering the lady's question and he continued to usher me out. No one in the office did anything. He managed to push me as far back as the main door to which i said to everyone in the office you have a fully grown man doing this to me in front of all of you and you are all just sitting there gawmless, not doing anything. And I swore at them and went out the door that Daryl had pushed me back to. I have faced immense amount of trauma in my life, and it took every bone in my body and all the previous help i have received not to attack Daryl and smash up the building. I am adding this so people understand the elements and such complex needs people like me have and these incompetent people are advertising to come. When I left that appointment, I wanted to kill myself. I felt hopeless, abused, belittled and in despair that a professional place can treat me like that. The whole appointment was recorded on Daryls phone, I dont know if it was personal or work. I rang within 10 minutes to request my data most importantly the voice recording and basically I was fobbed off till they had enough time to write up the report and delete the recording. So I received my data after a month of that appointment after numerous emails and countless phone calls ( I called about 6 times on the day this all happened and every day after) and has SPECIFICALLY requested the voice recording in all correspondence, and what did I receive? I received a written report from Daryl himself of our assesment. That was it. No voice recording, nothing. Then they started ignoring me. I did google you Daryl - Your a P.E teacher. That explains it.