Basic ER empathy would be nice. First, the ER doc ...
Basic ER empathy would be nice. First, the ER doc had a horrible bedside manner. It is my opinion that when someone is dying, you comfort them as best as possible, and give them whatever they want as much as you can to make their death or severe sickness/discomfort/hospital visit at least a tiny bit less scary and upsetting. This did not happen. No water for hours, an insistence that the oxygen CPAP machine must be used, to the point of actual denial of my request that they just simply wait 10 minutes and give her a mouth moistener. They insisted the water would go right into her lungs. I am no anatomist, but I believe I was taught that water goes down the esophagus, then into the stomach- so how would it get into her lungs, especially if you just waited five minutes before trying the CPAP again? She was horrified and understandably very upset because, with the CPAP, she could neither breathe nor speak, and finally she insisted that she be released. This three day experience was an ordeal for her, and the ER staff for the most part made it no easier. There were some very good nurses and other support personnel but I think that the doctors in this valley are largely lacking in compassion or at least the ability to comfort a patient who is in dire straits. I understand the necessity of being impersonal, but the Coachella Valley doctors take it too far, to the point of brusqueness and a seeming lack of empathy. I will try not to go here if I am in bad health. They did give her a private room, and were able to arrange hospice care for her return home. That was needed, and appreciated.