Daphne and Dariene should be fired from this facil...
Daphne and Dariene should be fired from this facility.
I witnessed Daphne verbally lash out at a client and trigger her PTSD--Daphne would also use "incompletes" to threaten us. I spoke to Lori and Mimi about it; all they did was tell me they would speak with her.
I wasn't the only one who had issues with Daphne; many of the girls recounted horrific experiences with her. Also, Daphne never knocks--she barged into my room as I was changing (this happened to other girls as well).
I witnessed Dariene lash out on two occasions. Dariene once spoke down to a patient in front of the entire group in pre-meal; while the matter at hand may have been valid, the way she went about expressing it, was not valid.
On another occasion, Dariene verbally lashed out + raised her voice at us during lunch--which in itself is a challenge to get through. I'd prefer to eat without being spoken down to by someone who is in an authoritative/professional position.
Because OPC didn't care enough to ever take us outside, except for MAYBE 15min a week (COVID is not an excuse because they have a backyard) we, the paying clients, were coping with this by joking about how prisoners get to go outside more than us--it's true! Dariene raised her voice and, to put it lightly, commanded that we stop complaining.
Did I mention we were eating lunch? Something that can be hard enough for many of the girls? Instead of being empathetic, Dariene internalized our joke and then projected back onto us. I regret not having spoken up then--it was not right, the way we were spoken to at times.
When I brought up the Dariene incident to my therapist, they suggested that maybe Dariene was having a bad day. Do you know how much this messed with my mind? Service workers put on a smile, despite having a bad day. How on earth do you excuse verbally lashing out, and internalizing what patients say, at an eating disorder recovery center, where we are as vulnerable as we'll ever be in our lives?! When we're away from everything we're familiar with?! There is NO excuse. You are the professional. We are the clients. If you are unable to deal with us without lashing out at us or speaking to us like we are children, then this isn't the job for you.
Not to mention, Lori and Mimi held a group meeting during community, where we were scolded like children and spoken down to. Mimi even said that she works so hard "for us" and that we aren't grateful. Like what?! You're doing a job, you're getting paid! Please don't gaslight us into thinking we're doing something wrong for leaning on each other for support.
Also, another RC blamed us for being quiet at the table. Maybe it's because we have EDs and we're sitting face-to-face with it?! It is absurd to me that Lori and Mimi agreed with her. If you're an RC, it is your job to help us carry the energy--not blame us for it.
They demanded that we stop "talking smack" about the (awful) (poorly trained) (immature) staff; by talking smack, they meant that they didn't want us to discuss--among each other--about the horrible encounters we had with the staff!
The recovery coaches are not required to know anything about intuitive eating. The recovery coaches are not required to have a background with EDs or mental health. The recovery coaches are not required to have any background in dealing with trauma or substance abuse--all of this was extremely evident! The RCs were insanely inconsistent e.g. some would leave your bathroom door unlocked, some had a wonderful attitude/others did not.
RCs would enforce rules differently; some would require you to roll your sleeves up at the table, some would make you take your hoodies off, and some would do nothing at all. I recall Ashley being my night RC and not even checking in with me when I had an apartment challenge (they are very challenging!). The only RCs I liked: Julie, Kat, and D.
The care is not individualized. OPC is not trauma-informed. The groups were horrendous and consisted of repetitive worksheets. I don't recommend OPC for BED.