Nicolle Tulve

Review of Friends of Orange County DSS

After a previous bad experience and much research,...

After a previous bad experience and much research, I contacted Tracey (OC DSS) about becoming a foster parent through OC DSS. As a single parent, I really wanted to give back to my community and have a child/ren in the house. Unfortunately, prior experiences (even if no fault of your own) will haunt you. The slogan "You don't have to be perfect to be the perfect parent." is a crock of s***. People who don't even know you will continuously judge you and make decisions, even without consulting with your social worker after you become a licensed foster parent. No matter what, you can't do it well and the perceived bad event will always outweigh the good. People in positions of decisions will not know you or anything about you and will decide whether you should remain as a foster parent. This comment has nothing to do with Tracey. She spent time getting to know me and gave me an opportunity to have a placement. Unfortunately, there is a group of unknown folks who made the decision that I don't fit "their foster parent ideals", so I should no longer be a foster parent. It might be time for families to re-evaluate whether being a foster parent for any DSS location is a good idea. There is a reason this cliche exists "No good deed goes unpunished." Beware if you wish to become a foster parent!